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Old 04-17-2006, 04:38 AM   #1
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Alright guys... personal problem here... come help

Hey guys,
First of all, this is not something i would normally do because i am a strong believer in the fact that personal business does not need to be broadcast to everyone but in this case, i am still up and there is noone i want to talk to right now. I have tons of thoughts running through my head and i cant sleep so this is my last resort. Alright, im going to tell you guys the story without going into explicit detail because that would take too long to do and i would probably end up breaking down here in front of the computer again. Anyways....

I have been dating the same girl for 4 years. I was and am still madly in love with this girl as she was my everything and i honestly thought we would get married one day. I have never felt this way about anyone else before. She was a special person to me and i guess thats why im having such a hard time dealing with this. We went to a party last saturday and she started a fight with me and i left. I went back to pick her up the next day and she was acting really wierd towards me. Anyways, we end up working things out and everything seems to go back to normal on the sunday. I went to work monday at 3:00pm and she calls to tell me she is going to go to my friends house to watch some streetbike videos at 7:00pm with the guys that we hang out with. Well, i told her id rather she not go because i didnt feel comfortable with that but she hung up on me and went anyways. I got off work at 11:30pm and had no intentions of talking to her because of the way she had been treating me. I got a phone call from my buddy on the way home from work at 11:45pm telling me there was a rumor that she had slept with my friend at the party on the saturday night which is the same guy whos house she went to this monday night to watch videos. Well, in a rage, i drove to her house to see that she had just got home from his house and was in her driveway. I got out of the truck and asked her if the rumor was true but she denied it. She swore up and down nothing happened at all. I trusted this girl so i began thinking maybe someone is just starting some . Well, a few things flagged me off that she was hiding something so when i went to work on the tuesday, i didnt talk to her at all. She was calling me over and over again and i didnt pick up. I couldnt trust her that nothing happened and it was too fishy to me that there is a rumor that something happened the night of the party and then she went over to the same guys house 2 days later while im at work and stays there for a long time. I ended up getting off work and long story short, i ended up picking up for her call after about the 15th one in a row. I told her i cant believe what she said and that i think something happened and after about 40 minutes of telling her shes lying and to just tell me the truth, she admits to kissing him and him trying to mess with her at the party but she says she stopped it. Now i know something must have happened at his house because why would she do this and then go to his house again knowing that he tried something with her. Anyways, after another 30 mins of telling her i know something happened, she finally admits that she had with him at his house that night. I broke up with her and have not had anything to do with her since. I cant believe she could do this to me! I have been hearing from her friends that she is so sorry and she will do anything to get me back and that she made a mistake and is willing to do anything in her power to fix things with me. Now, what do yall think?? I know this is a decision i will have to make on my own but i cant stop thinking about it. I want so bad to believe her and take her back but at the same time, she crossed the line bad and i dont know if i could ever forgive her after thinking we were both something special to the other one and now knowing my buddy has been there too. It makes me sick!!! It may sound as though im calm on here to talk about it but im really not. If i didnt post this up, i would probably have gone crazy cause its been the only thing on my mind since i found out and obviously there is noone to talk to at 4:30am.

Anyways, i ended up finding out that she also messed around with one of my other friends while we were broke up a long time ago. She says it didnt go all the way but who knows... I know she also made out with guys while we were broke up here and there but i never thought it was this bad. Especially with me friends! Thats low! Granted, we were broke up at the time but still, if you have feelings for someone, you cant just go do that with someone in such a short time after breaking up. I know i could have never done anything like that no matter how mad i was.

Well, my question is, would you be able to forgive her if you were me? Keep in mind, we have been together for 4 years and i am madly in love with this girl. I am still in shock and denial that this happened but i know that it did because she finally admitted it to me. Can people change after doing such a thing? Is she only sorry that she got caught? I really dont know what to do and im going crazy!! So many different emotions in feeling and i cant help but to talk about it. Deep down i really want to believe that she will change and give her another chance one day but im not sure if she will change. It would be a long time before i could ever take her back after this anyways. I dont want nothing to do with her anytime soon but that doesnt change my feelings. Anyways guys, sorry i had to bring this on here. knows its embarassing to say this happened but im not the one at fault. I didnt even know! Let me know guys!

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Old 04-17-2006, 04:49 AM   #2
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If you go back to her ... when I go back home on leave.. I'll mack daddy pimp slap you so hard yo mama will feel it...:laughing6


I've been there.. done that... granted we didn't date for four years.. but that makes it even worse.. once a cheater always a cheater...

How could you even think about trusting her again?.. you trusted her with everything you had and she went off to do something like that?... with a "friend" of yours... no way in man. I don't care if you have dated for 75 years.. she cheated on you.. then lied to your face about it.... Shes only sorry she got caught.. it'll be hard for you to turn her away.. but you BETTER do it...or else you're just asking for it to happen again... give it some time.. hang out with some REAL friends.. goto a club or something.... go to the track or something. .Anything to get your mind off her.. you'll see life without her does exist....

The grass is greener on the other side buddy

Plenty of girls out there.... take a break from having a chain on your leg.. and having to worry about a girl messing around on you.. You'll see you can enjoy yourself a lot more.
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Old 04-17-2006, 04:57 AM   #4
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look man once a cheater always a cheater(im pretty sure the term has been repeated as of now) im oen to talk, but hey ive been on both sides of the story, its sux no matter what, i wanted someone i cheated on and someone wanted me when she cheated on me , and on both occasions it was more than 2 yrs, long enough to me to be honest, man look for some buds of ur and hang out with them when ever u feel lonely and they will keep ur spirit up, gaurantee, if u need a bud hit me up for sure, ive been in ur shoes
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Old 04-17-2006, 05:06 AM   #5
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BTDT.........once a cheater, always a cheater.

Find another girlfriend, and you might wanna look at finding some new buddies also. You don't sleep with a bud's gf (ex or not).

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BTDT.........once a cheater, always a cheater.

Find another girlfriend, and you might wanna look at finding some new buddies also. You don't sleep with a bud's gf (ex or not).

Keep your chin up, it gets better.

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BTDT.........once a cheater, always a cheater.

Find another girlfriend, and you might wanna look at finding some new buddies also. You don't sleep with a bud's gf (ex or not).

Keep your chin up, it gets better.

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Old 04-17-2006, 05:24 AM   #9
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Being in love with someone who doesn't (truly) love you back is the worst feeling in the world,I dont wish it on anybody.

as far as a future with her,you're going to have to decide if you can ever trust her again.it's a hard thing to do. and if you do decide to attempt to work things out...dont jump back into things,theres a reason she did what she did.find out why she did it and go from there,just remember that you can't turn a ho into a housewife,but you're housewife can always turn into a ho, and they will...esp if you put them in a situation like that.no offense to you at all...but i'd never leave my wife at a party or a bar.
find out but just remember that ur rage will increase though, fnding out is like getting slapped in the face by someone u luv, what u need is to some find some friends around u to help u out with the problem, make sure its friends that u grew up it with and would take a bullet for u no matter what
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just like most men do.
Wrong.... like most KIDS do would be a better statement.

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but if she tells you what she was lacking from you/the relationship...
So what .. .they were lacking something... doesn't mean go out and **** someone...

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and it's something you can change and it's something that BOTH of you are willing to do then give it another shot,and set up rules and boundaries,I'd never let my girl go to my friends house without me,she has no business there,
My wife hangs out with my 2 best friends all the time... I know for a fact that nothing is going on.. It's called trust....... rules?.. you're supposed to be able to trust each other.. You shouldn't have to have rules. If you do.. somethings wrong and you shouldn't be together anyways.
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Wrong.... like most KIDS do would be a better statement.



So what .. .they were lacking something... doesn't mean go out and **** someone...



My wife hangs out with my 2 best friends all the time... I know for a fact that nothing is going on.. It's called trust....... rules?.. you're supposed to be able to trust each other.. You shouldn't have to have rules. If you do.. somethings wrong and you shouldn't be together anyways.
:notworthy :notworthy :notworthy dam man how do u find the trust, alll BS aside, how long did it take u gain it or what took u to that level, im stilll in that pre-urlevel
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